Gift of Tears: A Practical Approach to Loss and Bereavement in Counselling and Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition (Paperback) book cover

Gift of Tears

A Practical Approach to Loss and Bereavement in Counselling and Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition

By Susan Lendrum, Gabrielle Syme


272 pages

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pub: 2004-06-17
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This thoroughly revised and updated edition of Gift of Tears includes new research and examples of recent events to help illustrate the effects of loss. Containing a strong practical element, the book guides the reader through the process of contemplating and eventually confronting their own relationship to loss.

Written by experienced counsellors and psychotherapists, the book contains candid and readable discussions of central issues, including:

* how to understand and work with anger and guilt

* attachment patterns and loss

* historical changes in attitudes to death and bereavement

* death as a particular form of loss.

Gift of Tears is intended for anyone who finds they have to cope, in the course of their daily lives, with the grief of others. It will prove invaluable to counsellors, therapists, mental health professionals and all those helping the bereaved.


'I could hardly put this book down. The clear and engaging text of the prefaces continues throughout, and it certainly lives up to its description on the cover as 'a practical approach to loss and bereavement in counselling and psychotherapy'. The authors make no assumptions as to who the reader might be, and the straightforward language and updated research findings provide rich material for anyone lecturing, practicing or studying to work in pastoral care.' - Rosemary Markham, Psychodynamic Practice

This new edition builds on an existing text of merit. It is an important book both for students and practitioners familiar with the old edition, as well as new readers.' - Bereavement Care

'This book is based on a wealth of experience and knowledge and that was consistently evident. This is one of those books that both skilled practitioners and beginners will find helpful. It is also useful to everyone in a persoanl sense - it will resonate with all our worlds as loss is experienced by us all.' - Moira Walker, European Journal of Psychotherapy and Counselling

Table of Contents

Introduction to First Edition. Introduction to Second Edition. Part 1: Loss and Nurture. Early Attachments and Loss. Adult Attachment Patterns. The Nurturing Environment. Part 2: Death as a Particular Form of Loss. Experiences of Death and Bereavement. The Effect of External Circumstances and Internal Factors on the Experience of Bereavement. Historical Change in Attitudes to Death and Bereavement. Cultural Variety. Children's Grief: 'Gift of Tears'. Personal and Family Experiences of Loss. Part 3: Working with the Grieving. Basic Loss Counselling Skills: 'Give Sorrow Words'. Tasks of Mourning: Meaning and Internalization. Further Skills Related to the Tasks of Mourning and Ending Counselling. Ways of Helping Children. Part 4: Anger and Guilt. Understanding Anger and Guilt. Working with Anger and Guilt in More Complicated Grief. Part 5: Professional Implications. Necessary Consultation for Complicated Grief. Assessment and Referral. Supervision. Epilogue.

About the Authors

Susan Lendrum and Gabrielle Syme work as psychotherapists, counsellors, supervisors, trainers and consultants to psychotherapy and counselling courses. They have lectured widely and run workshops on loss and related topics.

Subject Categories

BISAC Subject Codes/Headings:
PSYCHOLOGY / Psychotherapy / Counseling
SELF-HELP / Death, Grief, Bereavement