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Letting Go of Perfect
Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids

ISBN 9781593633622
Published April 15, 2009 by Routledge
216 Pages

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Book Description

Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids pinpoints a crippling state of mentality among many kids today—the need to be absolutely perfect—and gives parents and teachers the guidance and support they need to help children break free of the anxieties and behaviors related to perfectionism.

For children who believe their best is never good enough, perfectionism can lead to excessive guilt, lack of motivation, low self-esteem, depression, pessimism, obsessive and compulsive behavior, and a sense of rigidity. By delineating the major types of perfectionists and providing practical tips, the authors show parents and teachers how they can help these children effectively control their perfectionistic tendencies and use them to their advantage.

This engaging, practical book is a must-have for parents, teachers, and counselors wanting to help children overcome perfectionism, raise self-confidence, lessen guilt, increase motivation, and offer a future free of rigidity.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 1 Perfectionism and Children 2 Debunking Myths About Perfectionism 3 The Academic Achiever: “Must Achieve 100%” 4 The Aggravated Accuracy Assessor:“Exactness and Fixation on ‘Redos’” 5 The Risk Evader: “All or Nothing” 6 The Controlling Image Manager: “I Could Have if I Wanted to” 7 The Procrastinating Perfectionist: “If It Stays in My Mind, Then I Can’t Fail” 8 Identifying Healthy and Unhealthy Perfectionism 9 Strategies for the Classroom 10 Strategies for the Home 11 Resources for Children 12 Resources for Adults Glossary References About the Authors

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Jill L. Adelson, Ph.D., has worked with children in a variety of settings, including academic, extracurricular, and athletics, and as a parent. She taught fourth-grade self-contained gifted and talented in Newport News, VA, and some of her coaching activities included Odyssey of the Mind, softball, and the academic team.

Hope E. Wilson, Ph.D., writes from the perspective of both a parent and an educator. As an educator, she has worked primarily as an elementary art teacher in Texas. In this position, she had the joy of teaching all of the students, from kindergarten through fifth grade, and working with the other teachers to develop cross-curricular activities and connections.


The book “Letting Go of Perfect” is a pretty accessible read and has some good strategies for both teachers and parents in how to help their child overcome perfectionism. They also go about debunking some of the myths around perfectionism, which I believe are very important to share . . . If you are seeing perfectionism in your child or students, this book is worth a read.,Gift-Ed Connections, 4/20/13