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Mending the Torn Fabric

For Those Who Grieve and Those Who Want to Help Them, 1st Edition

By Sarah Brabant

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162 pages

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Description

The analogy of the torn fabric was first used by the author in response to a bereaved mother's cry: "I know what grief feels like; I don't know what it looks like." In "Mending the Torn Fabric: For Those Who Grieve and Those Who Want to Help Them", the author expands the metaphor to include earlier and future or potential losses as well as losses associated with the death that may be unrecognized or minimized. This book includes chapters that examine complications that may be present or may arise, suggestions for mending even the most torn fabric, and a chapter dedicated to friends who want to help. Stories bereaved persons have shared with the author through the years are interspersed throughout the book to provide examples of loss and mending.

Table of Contents

The Torn Fabric

Presentation of the analogy (The torn fabric)

Places to Mend

This chapter focuses on the bereaved individual's response to loss and includes such responses as denial, anger, bargaining, depression, relief, fear, and sadness. It also discusses acceptance as a process rather than an end result.

Places to Avoid

Focus is on guilt and blame and centers on the response of others to an individual's loss. How is the loss defined? Is it worth grieving about? How "should" one grieve appropriately? Included is a discussion of early childhood learning that may inhibit grief work, i.e., mending.

How Many Tears?

This chapter addresses the social roles that are lost when a person dies. For example, when a child dies, the parent "dies" also. Thus, there are always at least two tears. How does one go about recognizing which tear needs mending?

Earlier Tears

This chapter includes earlier losses such as abandonment(s), failures, abuse, etc.

Future Tears

This chapter includes but is not limited to anniversary reactions and holidays.

Needles and Threads

Books, workshops, counseling are discussed at this time. This chapter also includes rituals, dreams, exercise, and other means of working through grief.

Complicated Mending

This chapter looks at those factors which make mending (grief work) particularly difficult, e.g., earlier problems such as alcoholism, or types of death such as sudden death, murder, suicide, multiple deaths, etc.

The Mended Fabric

This chapter addresses the problems associated with moving back into the mainstream of life, i.e., embroidering rather than mending.

Guidelines for Those Who Want to Help

Suggestions (both do's and don'ts) for family, friends, and co-workers.

Notes for the Professional: Theoretical Underpinnings and Use of Analogy

Bibliography • Resources for Bereaved Persons •

Suggested Readings/Videos • Index

About the Series

Death, Value and Meaning Series

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Subject Categories

BISAC Subject Codes/Headings:
PSY036000
PSYCHOLOGY / Mental Health