How can newlyweds believe they will be together forever, while knowing that the majority of marriages end in divorce? Why do people who desperately want to be loved end up alienating those who love them? How can partners that seem like complete opposites end up blissfully happy? This volume explores such fascinating questions. Murray and Holmes outline how basic motivations to be safe from being hurt and find value and meaning control how people feel, think, and behave in close relationships. Additionally, the authors highlight how these motivations infuse romantic life through succinct and accessible descriptions of cutting-edge empirical research and vivid evolving stories of four couples confronting different challenges in their relationship. Integrating ideas from the interdependence, goals, and embodiment literatures, this book puts a provocative new spin on seminal findings from two decades of collaborative research.
This book is essential for social and personality psychologists and will also be valuable to clinical psychologists and clinicians who work directly with couples to effect more happy and stable relationships. Advanced undergraduate and graduate students will find it a highly engaging compendium for understanding how motivation shapes affect, cognition, and behavior in close relationships.
1. Introducing Motivated Cognition 2. Embodying Safety and Value Goals 3. Pursuing Safety 4. Pursuing Value 5. Why Safety Trumps Value 6. When Value Trumps Safety 7. Reality Contraints 8. Looking Forward
Essays in Social Psychology is designed to meet the need for rapid publication of brief volumes in social psychology.
Primary topics will include social cognition, interpersonal relationships, group processes, and intergroup relations, as well as applied issues.
Furthermore, the series seeks to define social psychology in its broadest sense, encompassing all topics either informed by, or informing, the study of individual behavior and thought in social situations.
Each volume in the series will make a conceptual contribution to the topic by reviewing and synthesizing the existing research literature, by advancing theory in the area, or by some combination of these missions.
The principal aim is that authors will provide an overview of their own highly successful research program in an area.
It is also expected that volumes will, to some extent, include an assessment of current knowledge and identification of possible future trends in research.
Each book will be a self-contained unit supplying the advanced reader with a well-structured review of the work described and evaluated.