1st Edition

Parents Are Our Other Client Ideas for Therapists, Social Workers, Support Workers, and Teachers

By Sandra Wieland Copyright 2017
    306 Pages
    by Routledge

    306 Pages
    by Routledge

    Parents Are Our Other Client: Ideas for Therapists, Social Workers, Support Workers, and Teachers stands out among the vast literature on counseling children and families by finally giving therapists, social workers, support workers, and teachers the tools necessary to work with the single most significant influence on children: the parents.

    This book:

    • Explains in an accessible and readable format how parenting patterns are learned unconsciously during early childhood and emerge later, when people become parents.

    • Delivers a comprehensive and practical guide for professionals working to help parents see their children differently and change the way they interact with their children.
    • Clarifies why directing attention to the non-verbal areas of a parent’s brain with techniques such as imaging is essential for achieving a shift away from early learned patterns.
    • Examines how a professional's own childhood experience influences the way he or she works with parents and how professionals can shift to more positive responding even with the most resistant parent.
    • Provides informative clinical illustrations based on current research and the authors' extensive clinical and supervisory experience.

    Introduction  1. The Parents and Us  2. Learning About the Parent and About Us  3. How Parenting Patterns Are Held in the Brain  4. Attending to Attachment Relationships  5. Using the Skills We Already Have  6. Helping Parents Move Out of Negative Interactive Patterns  7. When the Home is an Adoptive Home  8. Our Experience  9. Concluding Thought - Super-Vision, Peer-Vision, Self-Vision  Bibliography Index


    Sandra Wieland, PhD, was a psychologist, play therapist, trainer, and consultant in Victoria, Canada. She was previously a classroom teacher, special education teacher, and school counselor. Dr. Wieland taught internationally on trauma and working with parents, had written books and chapters on therapy with children and adolescents, and recently had edited Dissociation in Traumatized Children and Adolescents, Second Edition (Routledge, 2015). She received the Woman of Distinction Award and the Cornelia B. Wilbur Award for clinical excellence. In 2016 she was ‘blanketed’ by the Hulitan First Nations Family for her work with their therapists, children, and parents.

    “This excellent book is a must-read for all professionals working with children, especially children with unsafe attachments. In her own inspiring and practical way, Wieland teaches us how we can improve the outcome of our work with children by giving their parents the interactive experiences that strengthen their abilities to be the safe, stable, and engaging adults that children need.”—Leony Coppens, MA, clinical psychologist; EMDR Europe practitioner, private practice

    “Wieland's (with Baita) Parents Are Our Other Client: Ideas for Therapists, Social Workers, Support Workers, and Teachers highlights an important perspective: all of us who work with children, also work with parents. Communication between parents and children as well as between clinicians and parents—positive or negative, verbal and non-verbal—is always part of the work. Multiple dialogue examples demonstrate how parenting experience impact interactions and outcome, and detail how child-professionals can use introspection, narration, and their own reactions to improve attunement, model healthy attachment, reduce confrontation, and provide opportunities for change.”—Na'ama Yehuda, MSC, SLP, speech language pathologist, private practice, international consultant, developmental trauma and communication; author, Communicating Trauma: Clinical presentations and interventions with traumatized children (Routledge, 2015)