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Spirituality and Emotional Intelligence
Wisdom from the World’s Spiritual Sources Applied to EQ for Leadership and Professional Development

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ISBN 9781032038391
August 24, 2021 Forthcoming by Productivity Press
176 Pages 11 B/W Illustrations

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Book Description

This book weaves together spirituality and a systemic version of emotional intelligence that incorporates Kurt Lewin’s social science and other sources. Emotional intelligence calls on us to be fully present “to the moment.” It calls on us to be appreciative of ourselves and our relationships. Likewise, a calm and compassionate presence is almost universally recognized as a spiritual way of being. In other words, the overwhelming majority of the world’s spiritual sources call on us to be emotionally intelligent and that link is explored with unique clarity in this simple yet powerful text. We are all reactive at times. Becoming more objective and less attached allows us to feel our feelings without being a prisoner to acting on them in habitual ways. From a more detached perspective, feelings are neither good nor bad, but simply clues as to how we are perceiving our environment, especially our social environment. This is especially important in terms of our relationships at work. Our perceptions about what people intend trigger our emotional reactions. Think about the difference when you perceive critical feedback as a sincere attempt to help or when you perceive it as an attack of some sort. Perception evokes different emotional responses. Objectivity about our own perception is even more important than objectivity about emotion, because the former usually precedes the later. Paradoxically, being detached allows one to appreciate and experience one’s emotions more fully. Recognizing emotion as part of your inner guidance system instead of as something dangerous that must be controlled or denied is freeing. The less emotion runs you, the more you can accept feeling what you feel. Emotion is a form of physical energy. Fighting your own feelings takes energy. Allowing the ebb and flow of emotion is essential to physical and emotional health and to accepting ourselves as we are.

Table of Contents

Dedication *

Acknowledgements *

Introduction *


Chapter 1: Crosby-Style EQ *

Chapter 2: The Crosby EQ Hierarchy *

Chapter 3: EQ Hierarchy Level One - Self-Awareness *

A. Reclaiming your Full Range of Emotion *

B. Identifying your Habits and Patterns *

C. Using your Inner Guidance System (Self-Differentiation) *

Ability to Separate Self and Other *

Ability to Separate the Past from the Present (Here & Now) *

Ability to Separate Thinking and Feeling *

D. Understanding your Mind-Body Connection *

E. Re-Opening your Mind *

F. Playfulness *

Chapter 4: EQ Hierarchy Level Two - Empathy *

A. Compassion—Genuinely Caring *

B. Accuracy—Getting What They Mean *

C. Open Mind—Respecting Differences *

D. Interaction—Conveying Empathy *

Chapter 5: EQ Hierarchy Level Three - Skills *

A. Self-Calming *

Conscious Breathing *

B. Active Listening *

C. Feeling Description *

D. Conflict Skills *

E. Systems Thinking *

Chapter 6: Cognition & Emotion (Cause & Effect) *

Chapter 7: Attachment and Detachment *

Chapter 8: Behavioral Science Meets the Toltec Mayans *

Chapter 9: Out Here in the Fields (Field Theory) *

Chapter 10: Leadership *

Chapter 11: Non-Violence *

Chapter 12: Marshmallows on a Stick *


Chapter 13: Red (Hard) Emotions *

Anger *

Skepticism and Pessimism *

Defensiveness *

Chapter 14: Blue (Fragile) Emotions *

Worry/Anxiety/Discomfort *

Fear and Courage (Yellow) *

Sadness, Sorrow, Grief *

Shame and Guilt *

Humiliation *

Depression *

Chapter 15: Yellow (Soft) Emotions *

Love *

Trust and Mistrust (Blue) *

Patience and Impatience (Red) *

Forgiveness *

Empathy *

Humility, Humiliation (Blue/Red) and Self-Esteem *

Gratefulness *

Awe, Inspiration, Faith & Mystery *

Appendix A: The Religions of Man *

Bibliography *

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Gilmore Crosby is the president of Crosby & Associates. He has expertise in Leadership, Learning, and Organization Development. He has over three decades of experience, including management positions in five organizations. He has deep experience in facilitating performance improvement through initiatives such as coaching and team development (from upper management to the floor), process improvement, assessment methodologies (organizational, team, and individual), conflict resolution, and other OD and change management solutions. Responsible for design, development, and delivery of innovative learning solutions, ranging from individual coaching to accredited leadership development programs.