The Family Guide to Getting Over OCD Reclaim Your Life and Help Your Loved One
When a loved one has OCD, it's a constant struggle. It hurts to see your spouse so anxious or your teen spending so much time alone. You've tried logic, reassurance, even accommodating endless rituals--but, too often, these well-meaning attempts actually make OCD worse. Psychologist Jonathan Abramowitz has worked with countless families affected by OCD, and he understands the strain. He also knows you can turn things around. Grounded in state-of-the-art treatment research, this compassionate guide helps you change your own behavior to support your loved one's recovery. By gently but firmly encouraging the person you care about to face their fears, you can stop being controlled by the disorder, disentangle yourself from unhealthy patterns, and see your whole family grow more confident and hopeful. Vivid stories, dos and don'ts, and practical tools (which you can download and print for repeated use) help you follow the step-by-step strategies in this life-changing book.
I. Understanding OCD
1. What Is OCD?
2. How Does OCD Set Its Trap?
3. How Do Families Get Entangled in OCD?
4. Treatment That Can Help Your Relative--and Your Family
II. Preparing to Untangle Yourself from OCD
5. Why Your Loved One May Refuse Treatment--and What You Can Do
6. Learning the Facts About Anxiety, Obsessions, and Uncertainty
7. Learning to Communicate Effectively
III. Reducing OCD’s Influence Step by Step
8. Taking Stock of Your Situation
9. Preparing Your Loved One
10. Setting and Maintaining Expectations
11. Reducing Accommodation
12. Responding to Arguments, Threats, and Extreme Behavior
13. Staying on Track
IV. When Your Loved One Is Ready for Help
14. Finding the Right Treatment Program and Provider
15. Becoming an Effective Exposure Therapy Coach
"This excellent resource is packed with great examples. In simple, clear language, it describes specific strategies you can start using immediately to increase your support of your loved one--while reducing accommodation of OCD. This book is a 'must have' for anyone with an adult or child family member struggling with OCD."--Lisa W. Coyne, PhD, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School; Director, New England Center for OCD and Anxiety
"If you have a family member suffering from OCD, this masterful book offers guidance and hope. Dr. Abramowitz helps you understand what your loved one is going through, what treatment entails, and how you can provide the best support. This is an impressive work that fills a significant gap in the field, and that will be helpful to everyone who cares about someone with OCD."--Eric Storch, PhD, Professor and Vice Chair of Psychology, Menninger Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Baylor College of Medicine
"Reading this book is basically like having Dr. Abramowitz as your family’s therapist. There are many explanations and examples that helped us understand what our daughter was going through and connect with her in a healthier way. The real game changer was when we successfully stopped participating in her compulsions. Following this book’s advice was not always easy, but it definitely improved our child’s self-confidence and reduced the level of frustration in our family."--Len G., Wake Forest, North Carolina
"By far the most comprehensive family-focused OCD resource. Dr. Abramowitz, one of the premier leaders in the field, includes everything you need to know in one easy-to-read book. He guides you through each step needed to help someone with OCD."--Bradley C. Riemann, PhD, Chief Clinical Officer, Rogers Behavioral Health-This book is a masterpiece for healing, health, and hope. It is readable and lofty at the same time. There is plenty of science here, but it is skillfully written so that it is easy to understand and easy to accept what is offered. There are no comparable books; this book stands alone. The author makes it clear that he knows OCD and cares about those stuck in the web of routines and rituals. He provides hope where there has been none. Families struggling with OCD are encouraged to use this book. The strategies and supports are life changing.--Doody’s Review Service, 7/22/2021