Do you wish your son or daughter would tell you more about what is happening in their life, and that they would open up to you more often? Are you worried about them as they seem to be spending more and more time in their bedroom and on their smart phone? The teenage years can be a time of concern and worry for parents and carers from all backgrounds. However, Why Won’t My Teenager Talk to Me? offers the parent and care-giver insightful and practical advice, as to how to encourage positive and respectful two-way communication between you and your teenager.
The new edition of this essential book offers a positive way of thinking about the teenage years. So much has changed in the last five years since the book first appeared. Our knowledge of the human brain has increased, and this new edition includes a whole chapter devoted to the changing teenage brain. The social world of the teenager has also continued to change. Alongside the voices of a wide range of parents and carers of teenagers, Dr John Coleman explores this changing social landscape, addressing issues like social media, mental health, and gender.
Communication is really at the heart of Dr John Coleman’s message – talking and listening are essential – and this book offers up new and valuable ways in which communication can help the parent and care-giver manage family life during the adolescent stage of life. It will also be useful to professionals working with young people in the fields of social work, counselling, health, and education.
‘This book merges the voices of parents and teenagers with Dr Colemans's authoritative, well-defined framework, offering practical information and advice for parents of today’s teenagers.’ Janey Downshire, Teenagers Translated, UK
‘John writes in a generous, practical and informed manner about difficult subject areas. He provides a frames work ‘STAGE’ for reflection and reference, but most of all an open-minded approach to get the most out parenting during the teenage years – he even allows us to consider that this can be a wonderful and not terrible experience because he talks to both parents and teenagers themselves.’ Jez Todd, CEO of Family Lives, UK
‘In today’s pressured and competitive world, it seems that parents have much to worry about and too little sensible guidance. Parents are full of questions, for their experiences are new to them and, in the case of the fast-changing digital world, new to everyone. John Coleman’s years of expertise, sound research and sympathetic vision allows him to offer wise yet practical answers in a lively, accessible and thoroughly up-to-date manner.’ Professor Sonia Livingstone OBE, London School of Economics and Political Science, UK
‘This book is essential reading for anyone with a teenager. Fostering and maintaining good communication with a teenager can feel impossible – conversations end up turning into arguments and everyone starts to feel worried or upset. This book gives parents the insights they need to keep family communication channels open. It’s insightful and practical and should be on every parent’s bookshelf.’ Vicki Shotbolt, Founder and CEO of Parent Zone, UK
‘This is the book that every parent of a teenager should have on their bedside table. Read it through, dip in and out – it contains so much that can help you. Coleman combines wisdom and sympathy with practicality and facts. He gives tips and suggestions on how to talk to your teenagers, and how to listen. But far more important, he gives you insight into why your teenagers act and feel the way they do and dissects the increasing pressures they come under in today’s world. This new edition contains the latest research on the teenage brain.’ Suzie Hayman, Agony Aunt for Woman Magazine and Trsutee of the charity Family Lives
Chapter 1 The teenage years
Chapter 2 The changing brain
Chapter 3 The STAGE framework
Chapter 4 S - The Significance of parents and carers
Chapter 5 T - Two-way communication
Chapter 6 A - Authority
Chapter 7 G - The Generation gap
Chapter 8 E - Emotion
Chapter 9 Teenagers and health
Chapter 10 Sex and gender
Chapter 11 Friends and the peer group
Chapter 12 The digital world
Chapter 13 Divorce and the changing family
Chapter 14 Risk-taking and challenging behaviour
Chapter 15 Conclusion: how parents can make use of the STAGE framework