2nd Edition

Your Defiant Teen, Second Edition 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship

By Russell A. Barkley, Arthur L. Robin Copyright 2014

    If life with your teen has become a battleground, it's time to take action. This empathic book shows how. Trusted psychologists who have worked with thousands of families give you the tools you need to overcome defiance and get teen behavior back on track. By following the authors' clinically proven 10-step program, learn how you can:
     
    *Reestablish your authority while building trust.
    *Identify and enforce nonnegotiable rules.
    *Use rewards and incentives that work.
    *Communicate and problem-solve effectively--even in the heat of the moment.
    *Restore positive feelings in your relationship.
    *Develop your teen's skills for becoming a successful adult.
     
    Vivid stories and answers to frequently asked questions help you put the techniques into action. The updated second edition incorporates new scientific research on why some teens have more problems with self-control than others. Practical forms and worksheets can be downloaded and printed in a convenient 8 1/2 x 11 size.

    Mental health professionals, see also the authors' Defiant Teens, Second Edition: A Clinician's Manual for Assessment and Family Intervention. For a focus on younger children, see also Dr. Barkley's Defiant Children, Third Edition (for professionals), and Your Defiant Child, Second Edition (for parents).

    Introduction
    I. You and Your Defiant Teen
    1. What Defiance Is--and What You Should Do about It
    2. How Defiance Develops
    3. What Does Adolescence Have to Do with It?
    4. Is It Just Your Teen's Personality?
    5. Where Do You Come In?
    6. How to Find a Way Out
    II. 10 Steps to a Better Relationship with Your Teen--and a Better Future for Your Teen
    7. Getting Ready
    8. Step 1. Making Positive One-on-One Time a Habit
    9. Step 2. A New Way to Manage Behavior
    10. Step 3. Contracts and Point Systems: How Teens Can Earn Privileges
    11. Step 4. Making the Punishment Really Fit the Crime
    12. Step 5. Tackling Additional Issues with Rewards and Penalties
    13. Step 6. Addressing Defiant Behavior in School and Conflicts over Homework
    14. Step 7. Using Problem-Solving Skills
    15. Step 8. Learning and Practicing Communication Skills
    16. Step 9. Dealing with Unreasonable Beliefs and Expectations
    17. Step 10. Keeping It Together
    Appendix A. Sample Problem-Solving Worksheets
    Appendix B. How to Find a Therapist
    Resources

    Biography

    Russell A. Barkley, PhD, ABPP, ABCN, before retiring in 2021, served on the faculties of the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, the Medical University of South Carolina, and Virginia Commonwealth University. Dr. Barkley has worked with children, adolescents, and families since the 1970s and is the author of numerous bestselling books for both professionals and the public, including Taking Charge of ADHD and Your Defiant Child. He has also published six assessment scales and more than 300 scientific articles and book chapters on attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, executive functioning, and childhood defiance. A frequent conference presenter and speaker who is widely cited in the national media, Dr. Barkley is past president of the Section on Clinical Child Psychology (the former Division 12) of the American Psychological Association (APA), and of the International Society for Research in Child and Adolescent Psychopathology. He is a recipient of awards from the American Academy of Pediatrics and the APA, among other honors. His website is www.russellbarkley.org.

    Arthur L. Robin, PhD, is Director of Psychology Training at Children's Hospital of Michigan and Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neurosciences at Wayne State University. Dr. Robin is a practicing psychologist with more than 40 years of clinical experience.

    Christine M. Benton is a Chicago-based writer and editor.

    The transition from adolescence to adulthood can be tough as teens attempt to assert their independence. Now in an updated second edition, this is a very welcome, current resource that helps you guide your teen through difficult times. Your Defiant Teen has been--and will continue to be--the first book I recommend to parents struggling with challenging teens.--Sam Goldstein, PhD, coauthor of Angry Children, Worried Parents

    Since the first edition of this book was published, growing evidence shows that the authors' program works. The second edition incorporates lessons learned from continuing research while maintaining the practical, warm, and supportive approach. Without placing blame, the authors help you understand your teen's behavior and explain 10 clear steps for creating positive change by improving the ways you interact.--Torrey A. Creed, PhD, Department of Psychiatry, University of Pennsylvania

    Here it is--a book that provides insights into your teen's behavior and a game plan for addressing it! This step-by-step guide can produce a stunning turnaround by helping you focus on the positive and strike that necessary balance between monitoring your teen and fostering independence.--Sharon K. Weiss, MEd, coauthor of From Chaos to Calm: Effective Parenting of Challenging Children with ADHD and Other Behavioral Problems
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