The Pain Behind the Mask

Overcoming Masculine Depression

By John R. Lynch, Christopher Kilmartin

© 1999 – Routledge

228 pages

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About the Book

From The Pain Behind the Mask: Overcoming Masculine Depression, you will discover how masculine development precludes your male clients toward the two defining characteristics of masculine depression: dissociating from feelings and acting out suppressed feelings in destructive behaviors. Depression in men is often misunderstood and misdiagnosed, which is why it often goes untreated. This unique book does not portray men as victims, but seeks to describe a man’s responsibility and proposes realistic strategies for change.

The Pain Behind the Mask is written in easy-to-follow question and answer format to guide you through various subtopics discussed within each general area. Through The Pain Behind the Mask, you will learn new techniques and strategies to help improve the lives of men who suffer from depression by:

  • gaining new insight into how understanding destructive behaviors as a masculine form of depression leads to new treatments for this condition
  • discovering effective treatments for masculine depression that account for the origins and meaning of a man’s behavior in a relationship
  • analyzing case studies to help you gain a better understanding of the various characteristics and dynamics of masculine depression
  • finding useful ways to conceptualize and intervene with clients who display symptoms of masculine depression
  • learning to address the underlying causes of problem behavior instead of dealing solely with the outward appearance to recognize and treat masculine depression

    The Pain Behind the Mask deals with the problems of masculine depression by helping you acquire workable solutions. This indispensable book will help you understand the roots of masculine depression so you can guide your clients toward positive and self-healing attitudes.

Table of Contents

Contents Preface

  • Introduction
  • Chapter 1. He Sure Doesn’t Look Depressed
  • What Is Depression?
  • What Is Masculine Depression?
  • How Is Masculine Depression Different from Feminine Depression?
  • What Are the Solutions to Masculine Depression? Chapter 2. Family Influences
  • What Are the Family Roots of Masculine Depression?
  • How Are Family Relationships Structured?
  • How Does Family Structure Influence a Boy’s Development?
  • How Do Peer Groups Influence Family Dynamics?
  • How Do Negative Masculine Childhood Experiences Lead to Relationship Problems in Adulthood?
  • How Does a Problematic Mother-Son Relationship Contribute to Masculine Depression?
  • How Does a Problematic Father-Son Relationship Contribute to Masculine Depression?
  • How Does Peer Socialization Lead to Masculine Depression?
  • How Can Men Develop “Healthy” (As Opposed to “Traditional”) Masculinity?
  • Chapter 3. Inhumane Treatment Leads to Inhumane Behavior: The Socialization Process The Socialization Process
  • What Are Gender Messages?
  • What Differences Are Found in the Physical and Social Environments of Males and Females?
  • What Are the Major Sex Differences in Childhood Gender Socialization?
  • What Role Does Reward and Punishment Play in Gender Stereotyping?
  • What Is the Single Most Powerful Gender Socialization Process for Males?
  • What Other Influences Have an Effect on Behavior?
  • How Do Individual Males Respond to Masculine Socialization?
  • What Are the Links Between Masculine Socialization and Gender Identity?
  • How Does a Father’s Inaccessibility Influence a Boy’s Socialization?
  • How Is Masculine Socialization Linked to Masculine Depression?
  • Chapter 4. The Masculine Dilemma: “Not Too Close, Not Too Far Away”
  • What Is the Masculine Dilemma?
  • What Does the Masculine Dilemma Look Like?
  • How Does Dissociation from Feelings Contribute to the Masculine Dilemma?
  • How Do Men and Women Tend to Differ in a Relationship?
  • How Does the Masculine Dilemma Affect Intimacy? 77 Summary of Part 1
  • Introduction to Part 11
  • Chapter 5. Empathy for Self and Responsibility for Change
  • What Do “Dissociated Feelings” Feel Like?
  • How Do Feelings Find Expression?
  • How Do You Begin to Feel Feelings?
  • How Can Men Learn the Importance of Expressing Feelings?
  • Is Identifying Feelings the Same As Empathy?
  • What Helps Men Change Their Views of Themselves?
  • What Are the ABCs of Change?
  • Chapter 6. Relation to Other Men
  • How Are Traditional Masculinity and Masculine Depression Connected to Men’s Relationships with One Another?
  • Isn’t This What the “Men’s Movement” Tried to Do Connect Men to Other Men?
  • What Do Men Really Need from Other Men?
  • Why Are Relationships with Other Men So Vital to the Healing Process in Men?
  • How Do Traditional Relationships with Other Men Maintain the Problem?
  • What Do Men Have to Offer One Another?
  • How Can an Inexperienced Man Form an Authentic Friendship with Another Man?
  • How Can Relationships with Men Change Men’s Dependency on Women?
  • What Are the ABCs of Change?
  • Chapter 7. Relation to Women
  • What Is Empathy?
  • What Do Men Need to Develop Empathy for Their Partners?
  • What Masculine Needs Most Impair Men’s Relational Skills?
  • What Is Narcissism?
  • Why Do Men Lack Empathy for Women in Intimate Relationships?
  • How Does One Overcome Masculine Narcissism?
  • What Steps Can Men Take to Acquire Skills for Successful Relationships?
  • How Do You Recognize a Power Struggle?
  • How Do You Fight Fairly Without Abuse or Capitulation?
  • How Can Men Learn to Be Mates and Not Masters?
  • What Is the Best Way to Talk?
  • What Are the ABCs of Change?
  • Chapter 8. Relations with Family
  • What Happens to Fathers in Problemati

Subject Categories

BISAC Subject Codes/Headings:
SOCIAL SCIENCE / Men's Studies
SOCIAL SCIENCE / Gender Studies