1st Edition

The Disenfranchised Stories of Life and Grief When an Ex-Spouse Dies

By Peggy Sapphire, Shirley Scott Copyright 2013
    244 Pages
    by Routledge

    244 Pages
    by Routledge

    The Disenfranchised: Stories of Life and Grief When an Ex-Spouse Dies offers an unprecedented anthology of never-before-published, first-person life histories by ex-spouses whose grief has endured as disenfranchised: socially unacknowledged, untold, and unrecognised. Each story of disenfranchised grief is fiercely honest and courageously made public. This anthology has no parallels in current texts, academic literature or mainstream publications. Contributors present personal histories, revealing that the dimensions of disenfranchised grief are as individual as the writers who have endured this neglected aspect of grief and bereavement. In many narratives, the healing power of their creative processes through art and poetry is further revealed. The anthology is compiled and edited by Peggy Sapphire, MS (Guidance and Counseling), a writer living in Vermont. Over the span of five years, through phone conversations and written communications, Ms. Sapphire established trusting relationships with the contributors, who, though choosing to submit their work, often struggled with reluctance, even dread, at revisiting previously private events in their lives and finally committing their stories to paper, and ultimately to publication. Each narrative is accompanied by a clinical commentary, written by Shirley Scott, MS, certified Thanatologist, which provides readers, whether academic, practitioner, student, or lay, with reflections on the issues and patterns of disenfranchised grief, as reflected by each narrative. Included in each commentary are bibliographic references for further and advanced study. The contributors represent an extraordinary range of professional achievements and academic credentials--well-published writers, poets, working artists, educators, academics, mental health practitioners, and health professionals.

    Contributors Acknowledgments and Dedications
    Peggy Sapphire and Shirley Scott

    Foreword
    Darcy L. Harris, Ph.D. FT

    Editors Preface
    Peggy Sapphire, MS Counselor

    Preface to Commentaries
    Shirley Scott, RN, MS, CT, Grief Counselor

    Introduction
    Dr. Kenneth Doka, Ph.D. Gerontologist

    SECTION 1 Moving Toward Forgiveness

    CHAPTER 1 Harold
    Rosemary Wyman

    CHAPTER 2 Rubber Man
    Anne Bower

    CHAPTER 3 Selected Slides
    Elizabeth Kerlikowske

    CHAPTER 4 Never Given a Name
    James McGrath

    SECTION 2 "He's Dead and I'm Not"
    CHAPTER 5 When Pawpaw's Spearmint Went to Heaven
    Linde Grace White

    CHAPTER 6 The Absence of . . .
    Barbara Traynor

    CHAPTER 7 He's Dead and Im Not
    Anonymous

    CHAPTER 8 Missing You
    Jean Gant

    CHAPTER 9 The Ride
    Kristina Grey

    SECTION 3. A Change of Worlds

    CHAPTER 10 Barking at the Knocks
    J. Bradley Brandts

    CHAPTER 11 Un-grieving a Death
    MM

    CHAPTER 12 Chronic and Acute
    Marion Cohen

    CHAPTER 13 The World Cracking Open or Living Atop a Cultural, Emotional San Andreas Fault
    Deborah Dashow Ruth

    CHAPTER 14 Then, a Deep Silence
    Korkut Onaran

    SECTION 4 As the Dust Settles

    CHAPTER 15 Geography of a Marriage
    Barbara Hoffman

    CHAPTER 16 Jake
    Denise Handlon

    CHAPTER 17 How I Survived
    Penelope Scambly Schott

    CHAPTER 18 Postmortem
    Joyce Lombard

    CHAPTER 19 Ex-humation: Digging Up the Past
    Mary Kolada Scott

    Afterword
    Peggy Sapphire

    APPENDIX
    Grief Reactions to the Death of a Divorced Spouse

    Further Readings

    Contributors

    Biographies
    Sapphire, Doka, Scott

    Index

    Biography

    Sapphire, Peggy; Scott, Shirley