1st Edition

Romantic Jealousy Causes, Symptoms, Cures

By Ayala Malach Pines Copyright 1998
    318 Pages
    by Routledge

    318 Pages
    by Routledge

    What causes jealousy? Who is more prone to jealousy--women or men? Why does jealousy sometimes lead to violence? How can you tell if you are a jealous person? Dr. Pines draws on case studies from her clinical practice, jealousy workshops, and fascinating research with more than 100 individuals and couples--including interviews with people who have committed crimes of passion. Exploring the many facets of this complex emotion, Dr. Pines discusses five psychological approaches to jealousy--covering such issues as whether jealousy is the result of unresolved childhood trauma, the dynamics within a specific relationship, or the consequence of our evolutionary nature. Romantic Jealousy offers real-life stories, simple quizzes, and an in-depth jealousy questionnaire aimed at helping readers assess their predisposition to jealousy and providing strategies to control their jealous urges. The advice offered can be applied to gay and straight couples, to those who suffer from a jealousy problem or know of a loved one who does, and for psychologists and counselors to use with their clients as a tool in therapy. Romantic Jealousy provides us with a compelling account of the psychology of jealousy. Dr. Pines journeys into the deep recesses of the human mind and heart, exposing the dynamics of jealousy--its causes, symptoms, and danger signs--and the most effective strategies available for keeping jealousy under control.

    Preface 1. The Green-Eyed Monster or the Shadow of Love? 2. Are You a Jealous Person? 3. The Unconscious Roots of Romantic Jealousy 4. Treating the Couple, Not the Jealous Mate 5. Men Get Angry, Women Get Depressed 6. Romantic Jealousy in Different Cultures 7. Romantic Jealousy in Open Relationships 8. Crimes of Passion 9. Coping with Romantic Jealousy 10. Can Any Good Come Out of Romantic Jealousy?

    Biography

    Professor Ayala Malach Pines is on the faculty of the School of Management at Ben Gurion University in Israel and a clinical psychologist specializing in work with couples in both Israel and California where she lived for many years. She is the author of ten books, including Couple Burnout: Causes and Cures, and Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures (both published by Routledge) as well as twenty book chapters and close to sixty research articles. Professor Pines has presented her work in many international conferences and in the popular media.

    "The book is inherently readable, containing an estimable balance of digested knowledge from the empirical literature, combined with carefully chosen and expertly delineated first-person accounts of both the sources and throes of jealousy...Pines offers a sound and even-handed presentation of the causes and consequences of jealousy from various theoretical perspectives...In so doing, she provides both expert and novice with a clear comprehension of the underlying assumptions, predictions, and evidence associated with each theoretical stance...most readers will find that the present work opens new avenues for their understandings of the causes and expressions of jealousy...anyone interested in the general field of interpersonal relationships will find this book to be an excellent introduction to the complexities of jealousy." -- Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
    "The definitive book on the psychology of jealousy. Compelling real-life vignettes and astute practical advice make this required reading for all lovers and for counselors who work with jealous couples." -- Dale Larson, Department of Psychology, Santa Clara University
    "Pines has provided us with a provocative and illuminating look at jealousy; her insights should prove extremely useful to couples grappling with one of the oldest and most difficult of interpersonal issues. An important book." -- Elliot Aronson, Department of Psychology, University of California at Santa Cruz
    "This book is a compelling account of the psychology of jealousy. Ayala Pines...journeys into the deep recesses of the human mind and heart, exposing the dynamics of jealousy and offers the most effective ways to keep those jealous impulses under control." -- Caribbean Wedding Guide