1st Edition

After the Fight
Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship

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ISBN 9781572300262
Published November 23, 1995 by Guilford Press
326 Pages

USD $36.00

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Book Description

Daniel B. Wile, author of Couples Therapy and After the Honeymoon, devotes this entire book to an analysis of a single night in the life of one couple. By tapping into their self-talk (their ongoing conversations with themselves), he discovers what starts, escalates, and rekindles fights--and also, what potentially allows for a useful conversation about a fight. Wile reveals the half-thoughts and half-feelings that generally go unnoticed: the anxious flashes; depressive waves; self-directed diatribes; and two-second mental divorces.



Daniel B. Wile, PhD, ABPP, until his death in 2020, had a private practice in individual and couple therapy in Oakland, California. He was also Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. Dr. Wile published on psychotherapeutic theory as well as on couple therapy. The pioneering developer of Collaborative Couple Therapy, he gave professional workshops throughout the United States and internationally.


"An inspirational book. It is one of the most unique and creative books about couples I have ever read. It captures not only the subtleties of couple interactions, but also the nuances of couples therapy. I plan to assign this book to all of my graduate students, and will open it myself whenever I need to be reminded of how exciting it is to study and treat couples." --Neil S. Jacobson, Ph.D., University of Washington

"Reading After the Fight is the next best thing to being in the room with Daniel Wile, widely renowned as a creative and masterful couples' therapist....Wile shows a remarkable capacity to put words to the vague and amorphous thoughts of the partners as well as the therapist.... He lets us in on his innermost thoughts and quandaries as a therapist and offers a multitude of examples and direct dialogue to make his approach come alive." --Gayla Margolin, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology, University of Southern California