1st Edition

Forever Coming Out The ‘Safety Dance’ of LGBTQIA+ Disclosure

By Maureen C. Outlaw Copyright 2026
166 Pages
by Routledge

166 Pages
by Routledge

This book challenges the persistent myth of a singular coming-out experience and introduces the concept of the “safety dance,” a recurring and complex set of assessments and adjustments LGBTQIA+ individuals engage in when determining whether, and when, to disclose their identity. The notion of the safety dance is based on data and insights from interviews with 69 LGBTQ+ adults’ lived experience... Read more

Acknowledgments viii

Preface ix

1 The myth of being out 1

2 Disclosure and exposure in context 19

3 Context matters: societal forces impacting

LGBTQIA+ experience 43

4 Social and individual-level forces impacting

LGBTQIA+ experience 67

5 Safe spaces, hostile spaces: “Gay-ging” for safety 91

6 The price of negotiation: cumulative exposure risk 114

7 Conclusion: the safety dance 136

Index 154

Biography

Maureen C. Outlaw is Associate Professor of Sociology at Providence College in Providence, Rhode Island, the USA. She earned her Ph.D. in Crime, Law, and Justice from The Pennsylvania State University in 2001. Her scholarly interests lie at the intersections of social context, gender/ sexuality, and victimization and harm. She has published work on intimate partner violence both within and outside the LGBTQIA+ community and is particularly interested in the ways in which contextual factors impact the experiences of stigma and marginalization in everyday life.