Although divorce is common, it often holds negative associations. Husband and wife team Barry and Emily McCarthy view divorce and remarriage with optimism, showing it to be a courageous choice that should not be viewed as personal failure but rather as a positive step towards a better life. In Getting it Right This Time, they zoom in on remarriage issues and identify the factors that led to the end of a marriage, using that information to help you learn from past mistakes and start over.
Marriage is based on a respectful, trusting relationship, and the McCarthys affirm that remarriage is an important choice that can lead to a rich, rewarding, and loving second chance. Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple.
"This is the best book to help people accept the reality of divorce and commit to a successful, satisfying re-marriage. Barry and Emily McCarthy's book is exceptional as an insightful, honest, humane, realistic, and wise guide for successful re-marriage." - Michael E. Metz, Psychologist, Marital & Sex Therapist, author of Coping with Premature Ejaculation and The Styles of Conflict Inventory
"This practical, proactive, and wonderfully accessible book gives you just what you need; it busts destructive myths, provides clear examples about what is normal and what to expect along the way, and lays out easy-to-follow guidelines, exercises, and solutions. You'll become your own expert and create success for your stepfamily." - Diane Sollee, MSW, Founder and Director, SmartMarriages
"Getting It Right This Time is a straightforward, clearly written, practical book for the general reader who has been divorced. It can also be a helpful book for those who are contemplating divorce, because the authors' discussion of past problems serves to put issues into perspetive in a way that may be helpful before one leaves one's first marriage. This is a basic "nuts and bolts" guidebook that would be a useful resource for couple therapists to recommend for those who want to read a self-help that has specific advice and guidelines." - Mary Ann Norfleet, PsycCRITIQUES, Contemporary Psychology: APA Review of Books, May 24, 2006 Vol. 51 (21), Article 3
"Getting it Right This Time provides resources needed to assess and change attitudes, behavior, and feelings to help you build a new marriage and step-family that will bring out the best in you as individuals and as a couple." - Jonathan Kroll, Editor, ADOLESCENCE
What Happened to 'Happy Ever After?' The Courage to Divorce. Learning From the Past. Choosing Well. Money and Second Marriage. Intimacy and Sexuality. Stepfamilies and Stepparenting - Yours, Mine, and Ours. Should We Have a Child? Traps and Vulnerabilities. Understandings and Agreements. Dealing with the Ex-spouse. The Imperfect Marriage: Surviving Hard Times. Marriage After Fifty. Cost-benefit Assessment of Difficult Marriages. Pride and Acceptance. Appendix A: Choosing an Individual, Couple, or Family Therapist. Appendix B: Marriage and Stepfamily Support Groups and Enhancement Programs. Appendix C: Recommended Books.