240 Pages
    by Routledge

    238 Pages
    by Routledge

    The hope for intimacy lies deep within us all. That moment of feeling uniquely understood, the antidote to isolation, is what gives us value, validation and self-belief. But as Ziyad Marar shows in this fascinating and engaging study, intimacy is a tricky business. The prevalence of social media, for example, is a sign of our desire for human connection, yet is a symptom of how little we truly achieve it.

    Often confused with love, intimacy is in many ways more important. Marar's investigation and celebration of this elusive but profound human experience shows how intimacy is central to a life well lived. But how do we spot the real thing? Marar helpfully identifies a key set of ingredients - reciprocity, conspiracy, heightened emotion, kindness - that when brought together enable the strongest experiences of intimacy. Without these four characteristics in the mix we are experiencing something less, or something else.

    Drawing on a wide range of sources - from key thinkers, as well as telling examples from familiar films and novels - Marar illustrates the subtlety and intricacies of intimacy and shows how closely it is bound up with notions of trust, control, risk and our own insecurities.

    Intimacy, argues Marar, is a necessary component of a fulfilled life. Yet we should not take for granted that we know what it is and how to get it. A better understanding of this powerful experience and the many barriers to achieving it may just help us to brave the search for it. For anyone bold enough to do so, which should be all of us, Intimacy is required reading.

    1. Only Connect  2. Translating Intimacy  3. The Kiss  Part 1: Intimacy Through Four Lenses  4. It Takes Two  5. A Conspiracy  6. Unruly Emotion  7. A Complicated Kindness  Part 2: Barriers to Intimacy  8. Insecurities  9. Solipsism and Imaginative Failures  10. Wishful Thinking  11. Cultures and Contexts  Part 3: Finding Intimacy  12. Learning from Literature  13. In Good Faith.  Index


    Ziyad Marar has a BSc and MA in psychology and philosophy, and is Global Publishing Director of the academic and professional publisher, SAGE. His previous books include The Happiness Paradox and Deception.

    "An interesting and wide-ranging meditation on the nature of intimacy." - Nigel Warburton

    "This is a bold and thought-provoking book with brilliant insight into human psychology and required reading for anyone brave enough to embrace this human experience that is as elusive as it is powerful." - The Psychologist

    "... a fresh and fascinating look at intimacy" – The Irish Times