Now in its third edition, It’s My Life Now is a guide for survivors who have left an abusive relationship. It addresses—in clear, non-threatening language—various issues associated with abuse and violence, including post-relationship emotions, psychological impact, dealing with children, personal safety, legal problems, and financial security. Each chapter dismantles common myths about being in and leaving an abusive relationship and contains activities for self-exploration that survivors can complete as they navigate a new life free from abuse. Recommended by the National Coalition of Domestic Violence, this book is designed to benefit any survivor, no matter how much time has passed.
"It’s My Life Now is a comprehensive roadmap toward rebuilding one’s internal sense of safety, esteem, and control at the conclusion of an abusive relationship. It’s My Life Now recognizes the innate challenges at the end of one's relationship and provides concrete strategies and tools to progress through this transition."
Lia Woods Holbrook, program director, Project Sanctuary
"Dugan and Hock continue to impact the lives of survivors in their newest edition of It's My Life Now. Each chapter provides valuable information that can empower people as they rebuild their lives in the aftermath of abuse. A resource for survivors and mental health professionals alike, this is my go-to book when working with this population."
Kevin A. Fall, PhD, LPC-S, professor and program coordinator, Professional Counseling Program, Texas State University
PART I: LOOKING BACK 1. Were You in an Abusive Relationship?2. Are You Out of Danger Now?3. Self-Esteem4. The Hidden Horror: Sexual Abuse5. How Could You Have Loved an Abuser?6. Abuse of Men by Women, and Abuse in Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Relationships PART II: NOW 7. Losing Your Partner, Your Dream, Your Life8. When Feelings Overwhelm You9. Signs of Unfinished Healing10. What About the Children?11. The Reactions of Others PART III: LOOKING FORWARD 12. Practical Considerations13. Beginning to Heal14. Who Are You Now?15. The Temptation to Go Back16. Is Your Abuser Still in Your Life? 17. Loving Again