1st Edition
Lesbian Ex-Lovers The Really Long-Term Relationships
268 Pages
by
Routledge
268 Pages
by
Routledge
268 Pages
by
Routledge
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We have earned a certain place in each other’s lives, and in the best of times we can rest on what we have made together.
Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significance of ex-lovers at different stages in a relationship.
Topics of interest in Lesbian Ex-Lovers include:
- the roles ex-lovers play in our lives
- ex-lovers as contexts for change and development
- how we continue to be influenced by ex-lovers
- letting go and moving on
- ex-lovers as current friends and family
- themes of betrayal and loss of faith
- reconstructing friendships and community
- the mystique of the ex-lover
- friend/family connections among lesbian ex-lovers
Lesbian Ex-Lovers is the only book in print that explores how a lesbian’s ex-lovers impact her subsequent romances and lifestyle. This special collection adds a new dynamic to the current literature for and about the lesbian community.
Lesbian Ex-Lovers offers advice, anecdotes, and interpretations from such authors, poetesses, and artists as:
- Michelle Gibson, PhDeducator and editor of Femme/Butch: New Considerations of the Way We Want to Go who says goodbye to her lover in a sad, passionate elegy
- Marny HallPsychotherapist, editor of the anthology Sexualities, and author of several books, including The Lavender Couch: A Consumer’s Guide to Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gay Menwho muses on the unique bonding between lesbians and their ex-lovers, lending a mystique that surrounds the lesbian lifestyle
- Alison Bechdelcreator of the comic strip Dykes to Watch Out Forwho presents a humorous comic strip thanking her former lovers for teaching her about herself
- Jane Futchernewspaper reporter and author of three novelswho uses a chapter in her novel to illustrate the tensions that can occur when ex-lovers choose to remain friends, especially when those bonds provoke jealousy in both current and ex-lovers
- Renny Christophereducator and award-winning poetesswho expresses her love, loss, and regret in three poems about her ex-lover
- and much more!
- INTRODUCTION
- Lesbian Ex-Lover Relationships: Under-Estimated, Under-Theorized and Under-Valued? (Jacqueline S. Weinstock)
- THE CHANGER AND THE CHANGED: EX-LOVERS AS CONTEXTS FOR DEVELOPMENT
- To All the Girls I Left Before (Alison Bechdel)
- Tenth Anniversary (Jill Stranger)
- Coming Out of My Closet (Barbara Brown)
- In My Dream: My Ex-Lovers’ Unconventional Convention (Pat Pomerleau Chávez)
- These Most Difficult Tasks (Karen Heise)
- Passion (Marilyn Lee)
- MOVING COSTS: CHALLENGES OF (RE)DEFINING OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND DEALING WITH UNFINISHED BUSINESS
- Still the One (Susan McCully)
- Loading Up the U-Haul: Traveling the Spaces Between Friends and Lovers (Tammie M. Kennedy)
- Daring to Take the Risk (Myra Betschild and Adrienne Fortanier)
- Family Affairs (L. J. Tess Tessier)
- Highly Favored Ex (Gina Perille)
- For Emily, Many Years Too Late/Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her (Renny Christopher)
- TOO MUCH TSORAS? THE HIGH COSTS OF MAINTAINING TIES
- Truth, Dreams and the Li(v)es Between (Marilyn Lee)
- Temporary Temptation (Cecilia Stanton)
- Lost Love (Renny Christopher)
- Neurotic Love Letters (tatiana de la tierra)
- Goodbye to My Lover (Michelle Gibson)
- Leaving Liza (Jane Futcher)
- Lesbian Ex-Lovers by the Numbers: A Reflective but Not Contemplative Love Poem of Sorts (Dr. Dyke)
- NOT LOVERS BUT NOT JUST FRIENDS: RECONSTRUCTING FAMILIES, FRIENDSHIPS, AND COMMUNITIES
- PERSONAL STORIES
- I’m Not Lisa (Kate Brown)
- The House on Transcript Avenue (Bernadette Barton)
- The Politics of Potlucks (Barbara Esrig)
- Family Doggerel (Becky Thacker)
- The Visit (Marilyn Lee)
- Irritating and Constricting/Elating and ElasticBeing Ex as a Lesbian (Fe Day)
- THEORETICAL REFLECTIONS
- Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives: Two Types of Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Tabitha Eden)
- When Three’s a Crowd: Ex-Lovers and Lesbian Families in 2 Girls in Love (Kelly McWilliam)
- Making the Transition: Understanding the Longevity of Lesbian Relationships (Susan B. Fitzgerald)
- Lesbian FLEX-ibility: Friend and/or Family Connections Among Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Jacqueline S. Weinstock)
- AFTERWORD
- The Migration of the Mythic Lesbian (Marny Hall)
- Index
Biography
Esther D Rothblum, Jacqueline Weinstock