1st Edition

Love Matters A Book of Lesbian Romance and Relationships

    206 Pages
    by Routledge

    206 Pages
    by Routledge

    Love Matters: A Book of Lesbian Romance and Relationships is a collection of advice columns and personal reflections that will help lesbian couples validate and appreciate their unique relationships. With excerpts taken from the author’s “Love Matters” column in the lesbian newspaper New Phazes, this book explores real-life questions and issues that lesbians have about dating, sex, love, and relationship longevity. From Love Matters, you’ll receive honest, informative advice that can help you and your partner share a more open and fulfilling relationship.

    Offering support, care, and understanding for lesbian couples, Love Matters seeks to recognize the “new female role” for lesbian women. Using her 15-year long relationship as a basis for many of the responses, the author provides you with suggestions and insight into topics relating to lesbian relationships, such as:

    • keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship
    • handling finances fairly and successfully
    • supporting your partner through the physical, emotional, and spiritual changes caused by menopause
    • identifying the difficulties of dating and what lesbians look for on a date
    • questioning the purpose of and emotions caused by a long-distance relationship
    • realizing how homophobia affects love and relationships
    While focusing on the joys and experiences of couples, this book also addresses depression and loneliness felt by single lesbians, break-ups, and the death of a partner. You’ll find that Love Matters offers comfort, hope, and humor that will help you understand the difficulties and rewards of your lesbian relationship.

    Contents Acknowledgments
    •  The Beginning
    • Sex Lives
    • Relationship Polarity
    • Finances
    • Breakup Rates
    • Menopause
    • Long-Distance Relationships
    • Dating
    • Forty Secrets for a Happy Relationship
    • The Right Person
    • How to Keep Love Alive
    • Misery Side of Misery/Bliss Ratio
    • Bliss Side of Misery/Bliss Ratio
    • Play
    • Anniversary Story
    • Fair Fighting
    • Death of a Partner
    • Publication of Love Matters
    • Good Enough Relationship
    • Jealousy
    • Depression
    •  Solitude
    • Mothering
    • Singlehood
    • Busyness
    • Saying Good-Bye
    • My Turn
    • My So-Called Ending
    • Bibliography


    Linda Sutton, MA, is a feminist psychotherapist in private practice, educator, and consultant in Colorado Springs, Colorado. Throughout her career, she has lectured, written, lobbied, and advocated for issues of concern to women, children, and families. Ms. Sutton is the author and founder of the Love Matters column in the Colorado Springs lesbian newspaper New Phazes, and, with her partner, conducts Love Matters workshops on lesbian relationships.