1st Edition

Mom Brain Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood—and Relax into Your New Self

By Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Copyright 2021

    Have you had a “mom brain” moment? Your heart is racing, your palms are sweaty, and your mind is spinning with anxiety, self-doubt, and whether or not you remembered to pack the diaper cream. Becoming a mother is a joyful rite of passage, but it can also be overwhelming--physically and emotionally. How can you calm the worries, quiet the guilt, and be present with yourself and your kids? Psychologist and mom Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco specializes in the myriad issues that women with young children struggle with. In this compassionate guide, she shares science-based strategies to help you cope with common challenges and make peace with your transformed identity. Dr. Dobrow DiMarco uses frank, funny, and moving stories to illustrate ways to tame self-critical thoughts and navigate the "new normal" of work, marriage, and friendships. Learn how you can mindfully accept the highs and lows of parenting--even in the toughest moments.

    1. “What’s Happened to My Head?”: “Mom Brain” and How CBT Can Help
    2. “What’s Happened to My Heart?”: Understanding the Emotional Roller-Coaster Ride of Motherhood
    3. “Who Am I Now That I’m a Mom?”: Redefining Who You Are and How You Work
    4. “Why Can’t I Stop Worrying?”: How to Cope When You Sweat the Small (and Big) Stuff
    5. “Why Don’t I Feel Safe?”: Managing Fears about Injury, Illness, and Other Threats
    6. “How Can I Possibly Find Time to Shower When I Have to Take My Toddler to Her French Lessons?”: Taking Care of Yourself While You’re Taking Care of Your Kids
    7. “Why Can’t My Life Be More Instagrammable?”: Coping with Comparison-Making and Social Media
    8. “Why Can’t I Mom Perfectly?”: What to Do When You Expect Too Much of Yourself
    9. “How Can I Nurture My Relationship When I’m Busy Nurturing This Kid?”: Navigating Changes and Challenges with Your Partner
    10. “Who’s the Mother Here?”: Coping with Extended Family
    11. “Where Has My Social Life Gone?”: Fitting Friendships into Your New Life
    12. “Why Isn’t Anyone Having Fun?”: Surviving Vacations, Holidays, and Special Events with Young Kids
    Appendix: Values Worksheet


    Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Summit, New Jersey. She specializes in helping women use cognitive-behavioral therapy and related evidence-based strategies to navigate the myriad challenges of motherhood. Her writing has been featured in Motherly, Motherwell, Psychology Today, Today Parenting, Parents.com, and The Washington Post, as well as on her own blog, http://drcbtmom.com. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and two sons.

    "Dr. Dobrow DiMarco is the wise, funny, relatable, and brutally honest girlfriend that every new mom needs--and she's also a seasoned psychologist who shows how tested clinical techniques can be used to address the worries, fears, frustrations, and feelings of loneliness that inevitably attend motherhood. Mom Brain is an outstanding contribution and a gift to new moms everywhere."--Lisa Damour, PhD, author of Untangled and Under Pressure

    "I can’t wait to recommend Mom Brain to my friends--both moms-to-be and those who have been around the block a time or two! This book has helped me define and prioritize what is important to me, and look at my relationships through a different lens. Most important, I no longer feel like I’m letting my baby and others down when I stand up for myself and my needs. I rarely reread books, but this one is different. I look forward to using it as a resource as both my son and I grow."--Blair B., Raleigh, North Carolina

    "This is a terrific book that all mothers should read. With a healthy dose of humor, Dr. Dobrow DiMarco shows you that it is normal to sometimes feel anxious and depressed about parenting--but that there are tools available to help. I'm a mother and a psychologist, and I still learned some new strategies for managing my own 'mom brain' by reading this book!"--Shireen L. Rizvi, PhD, ABPP, Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey

    "Dr. Dobrow DiMarco gets me--and that's not easy! Finally, someone has written about 'mom brain' with both impressive knowledge and self-deprecating compassion, acknowledging the complexity while simultaneously keeping things simple. As both a clinical psychologist and a mother of young kids, I have only two things to say to Dr. Dobrow DiMarco: Bravo, and thank you."--Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, PhD, author of The Tantrum Survival Guide-