3rd Edition

Rewriting the Rules A Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships

By Meg John Barker Copyright 2027
588 Pages 53 B/W Illustrations
by Routledge

588 Pages 53 B/W Illustrations
by Routledge

We live in a time of uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One but remain single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after but breakup after breakup leave us bruised and confused. We yearn for connection, but our attempts to get it disconnect us more than ever. Rewriting the Rules: A Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships is a friendly companion through the... Read more

1. Rewriting the rules 

2. Rewriting the rules of yourself 

3. Rewriting the rules of love 

4. Rewriting the rules of sex 

5. Rewriting the rules of gender 

6. Rewriting the rules of monogamy 

7. Rewriting the rules of conflict 

8. Rewriting the rules of break-up 

9. Rewriting the rules of commitment 

10. Rewriting your rules 

11. Rewriting our rules 

Biography

Dr. Meg-John Barker is a writer and illustrator with a background in social psychology, sex and relationship therapy, and queer activism and Buddhist mindfulness. They’ve published a number of graphic guides and self-help style books on the themes of sex, gender, relationships and mental health, as well as free books and zines on topics such as trauma, consent and plurality. Website: rewriting-the-rules.com.

"Who gets to write the rules about love and sex and relationships? Meg John Barker tells us that you do. Each of you. Each of us. And then goes on to show us a wide variety of choices of how you might choose to connect with others. Your choices. Whatever choices you have made so far in your life, you have to read this book. Then you can quit questioning yourself and take on the freedom - and responsibility - of living by your own vision, with those you love, as entirely your self."

Dossie Easton, Marriage & Family Therapist, Co-author of The Ethical Slut

"To tackle the dos and don'ts that flood intimate relationships advice, Meg Barker's sharp, insightful, open-minded and friendly guide is here to help you navigate the mazes of modern love. Meg's pen is like a benevolent friend who's hand you don't want to let go. Hold on to Rewriting the Rules."

Esther Perel, Author of Mating in Captivity