The Challenge of Marriage
First published in 1999. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.
Table of Contents
Preface To The New Edition. Introduction. Part I: What Is Love? The Function of Emotions. Love as an Emotion. The Function of Sexuality. The Function of Sexuality. Sexuality as a Tool. The Function of Romance. The Function of Love. Love as One of the Three Life Tasks. Definition of Love. Part II: The War Between the Sexes . Love Frustrations-A Social Problem. The Social Position of Women. The Confusion of the Male Scientist. The Four Rights of the Dominant Sex. Specific Sexual Rights. Woman's Modesty a Cultural Requirement. The Decline of Man's Superiority. Love as Warfare. The Present Anarchy. The Struggle for and against Feminine Emancipation. The Fallacy of Glamour and Chivalry. The Cultural Significance of Feminine Emancipation. Part III: The Concept of Sex. The Social Foundation of Sexual Traits. A Case of Transvestitism. Imitation of the "Superior" Sex. The Function of the Sexes. Sex and Social Order. Sex and Religion. The Child's Impressions of the Opposite Sex. Children Become Afraid of Sex. Sexual Enlightenment. The Child's Early Sexual Investigation. The Training for Love. Adolescence. The Three Functions of Sex. Part IV: Choosing A Mate. Interpersonal Communication without Awareness. Mating Serves Secret Personal Anticipations. The Past Influences the Present. Individual Taste. The Significance of Beauty. The Creation of Distance. Choosing and Ineligible Partner. The Green Light for the Wrong Direction. The Appeal of Deficiencies. The Life Styles Respond. The Real Reasons for Attraction. Love at First Sight. Feelings Are No More than Dependable Servants. Is Reason a Sound Basis for Choosing. Running Away from Marriage. Looking Perfection. Desires versus Real Intentions. Opposing Marriage. How to Find the Right Mate. Correcting a Poor Choice. Part V: Living Together. The Logic of Social Living. The Science of cooperation. The Fundamental Attitudes toward or against Cooperation. Relationships Are Based on Interactions. Logical Merit versus Psychological Significance. Veto Stronger than Demand. Sources of Mutual Disrespect. Intimacy Can Hamper Friendliness. Intimidation Instead of Firmness. Logic Used as a Weapon. Demanding Instead of Winning. Shifting the Blame. We Decide Our Responses. Marriage Is No Heaven. The Spirit Counts.