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The Everyday Lives of Gay Men Autoethnographies of the Ordinary

Edited By Edgar Rodríguez-Dorans, Jason Holmes Copyright 2022
    198 Pages 5 B/W Illustrations
    by Routledge

    198 Pages 5 B/W Illustrations
    by Routledge

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    The Everyday Lives of Gay Men draws on the expertise of 12 contributors from different countries and fields, writing from an autoethnographic first-person approach.

    Putting the power of personal stories at the centre of the construction of sophisticated narratives of gay men’s lives, the accounts draw attention to the limits of traditional perspectives to gay men’s studies that look at gayness through a sexualised lens and explore how gay men make sense of their identity in their everyday lives. Together they present a complex, nuanced understanding of gayness and challenge the conception of ‘being gay’ as a sexual orientation because it describes in sexual terms an identity that is not only, not always, and not predominantly sexual. The authors come from a variety of fields, including counselling studies and sociology, to communication, religion, and education.

    The innovative approach of The Everyday Lives of Gay Men makes it ideal for students and scholars in gender studies, sexuality studies, sociology, mental health, and research methods.

    The Open Access version of this book, available at www.taylorfrancis.com/books/e/9780367676834, has been made available under a Creative Commons Attribution-Non Commercial-No Derivatives 4.0 license.

    Ken Plummer

    Introduction: What is conjured when we talk about the everyday lives of gay men?
    Edgar Rodríguez-Dorans and Jason Holmes

    1. 17 Times a day I think of being gay
    David Lowbridge-Ellis

    2. Shower thoughts – of loss and queer love
    Randall C. Lopez

    3. Christmases past and present: A Phet tee saam lamb’s search for their flock
    Panu Sahassanon

    4. Sunday: An intimate self-dialogue about loneliness
    Cináed Thomas

    5. On (not) living past 30
    Tony E. Adams

    6. Going back to the glory hole: An (extra)ordinary story of meeting shame, doubt, and arousal in the therapy room
    Seamus Prior

    7. Becoming (in)visible: A performative autoethnography on mental health, help-seeking, and missing connections
    Willem J. Stander

    8. Lack of ordinary privileges in a gay man’s life: Navigating through privileged systems
    Yasin Koc

    9. I dreamt of a stranger
    Julian Triandafyllou

    10. Testing proximity and intimacy: An everyday reappropriation of private and public space
    Edgar Rodríguez-Dorans

    11. In my Latinx gay shoes: Work, discrimination, immigration, and polyamory
    Oscar Pantoja Guzmán

    12. Planetary times and queer times: A critical planetary romanticism for the earth
    Whitney A. Bauman

    13. Notes on the contributor’s experiences: Insights into autoethnographic research
    Edgar Rodríguez-Dorans and Jason Holmes

    Edgar Rodríguez-Dorans and Jason Holmes


    Edgar Rodríguez-Dorans is a qualitative researcher and mental health practitioner interested in the study of identities, sexualities, the everyday lives of LGBTQIA+ people, and the use of performing arts in research. He completed a PhD in counselling studies at the University of Edinburgh. He is a lecturer in counselling and psychotherapy at the University of Salford.

    Jason Holmes works as a psychotherapist and writer. His research examines the ways gay male friendship groups can take on qualities commonly associated with cults and the emotional harm such groups can inflict on their members. He completed his doctorate in psychotherapy at the University of Edinburgh and is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.