1st Edition
The It’s Not About the Sex Workbook Moving from Isolation to Intimacy After Sexual Compulsivity
This intimate guide offers readers step-by-step suggestions to build traction and create momentum in any stage of healing through illuminating case studies, memoir snapshots, as well as applicable action steps.
The book presents a forward-thinking wellness model that takes the whole person into consideration rather than pathologizing or dwelling on compulsive behavior of the past. Each chapter includes a composite case study and a memoir snapshot to set the tone and illustrate themes to be explored. The studies and snapshots demonstrate the residual challenges and limitless opportunities facing those in long-term recovery from sexual compulsivity. Utilizing the tools of positive psychology, attachment theory, and nervous system regulation, readers are challenged to leverage their resilience and resourcefulness. Critical issues such as spirituality and mindfulness provide a purposeful soul-searching toward wellness and well-being.
For use in conjunction with therapy, twelve-step groups or as a self-help workbook, this book focuses on the present and the future with an emphasis on the establishment of deeper connection and cultivating greater life fulfilment beyond compulsive sexual behavior.
Introduction 1. Reclaiming Resilience 2. Living with Loss 3. Turning Down the Volume on Shame 4. Moving Beyond Narcissism 5. Regulating the Nervous System 6. Feeling the Feelings 7. Cultivating Contentment 8. Restoring Purpose 9. Receiving Love 10. Revitalizing Sexual Health Taking Your Practice on the Road
Biography
Andrew Susskind, LCSW, SEP, CGP, is a psychotherapist in private practice in Los Angeles, California. He is the author of several books, including It’s Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction (2019).
"This workbook is a perfect companion to Susskind’s book It’s Not About the Sex and guides the reader toward healing wounds underneath sexually compulsive behavior. The psychoeducational components help demystify and destigmatize sexual compulsivity in a non-pathologizing, shame reducing way. I highly recommend this book to therapists as well as to those who would like to begin or continue their healing journey."
Joanne Barron, PsyD, Co-founder, Trauma and Beyond Center; Co-author, Intergenerational Trauma Workbook: Strategies to Support Your Journey of Discovery, Growth, and Healing
"Susskind has written an excellent companion workbook which strongly complements his innovative book It’s Not About the Sex. The integration of these two books will help readers better understand how sexual compulsivity, trauma, shame, and insecure attachment occur together."
Philip J. Flores, PhD, ABPP, Author of Addiction as an Attachment Disorder
"Susskind’s workbook It’s Not About the Sex is a significant addition to the field of trauma and attachment. The action steps are relevant for many of us to ponder, and his compassion both as a human being and Brainspotting therapist shines through in his personal stories. This workbook offers a clear path toward healthier intimacy."
Pie Frey, PsyD, Senior Brainspotting Trainer and Consultant
