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The Listening Book
How to Create a World of Rich Connections and Surprising Growth by Actually Hearing Each Other




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ISBN 9781032256450
March 28, 2023 Forthcoming by Routledge
272 Pages

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Book Description

Satisfying, secure connection with others depends heavily on how well we listen to each other and respond to what we’ve heard. The Listening Book lays bare the key elements of both deeply attuned and badly misattuned listening in vivid scenes of real-life interactions that capture the emotional impact and give the reader an illuminating "aha" experience. Added to that is a mind-opening account of psychological processes and principles that normally operate from outside of awareness, showing how skillful listening can reveal those dynamics. Beyond even that, such listening can produce interactions that unlock lifelong emotional conditioning to yield liberating change through one of the brain’s most remarkable processes, which neuroscientists call memory reconsolidation. Whether read solo, with a partner, or in a reading group, The Listening Book is for everyone who yearns for deeper emotional connection and closeness, everyone who is at a loss to understand what is interfering, and everyone who is fascinated by the subtle and manifold factors involved in interpersonal communication.

Table of Contents

1. Listening In: 52 Revealing Experiences of Attunement and Non-Attunement 2. It’s All About Connection 3. The Path to Profound Change

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Biography

Robin Ticic, B.A., HP Psychotherapy (Germany) is director of training for the Coherence Psychology Institute and co-author of Unlocking the Emotional Brain: Memory Reconsolidation and the Psychotherapy of Transformational Change.

Elise Kushner, B.A., HP Psychotherapy (Germany) is therapist, coach, and supervisor, as well as trainer of Coherence Therapy and Coherence Coaching for the Coherence Psychology Institute.

Bruce Ecker, M.A., L.M.F.T., is co-director of the Coherence Psychology Institute, co-originator of coherence therapy, and co-author of Unlocking the Emotional Brain: Memory Reconsolidation and the Psychotherapy of Transformational Change.

Reviews

"At once simple but profound, humble but sophisticated, unassuming but gently compelling, and subtle but absolutely riveting, this volume offers finely honed pearls of wisdom for implementing growth-promoting and loving connection. … A magnificent piece that will most certainly prove to be an invaluable resource for anyone with a heart and the desire to forge more meaningful connectedness with others."—Martha Stark, MD, faculty at Harvard Medical School and award-winning author of nine books on psychoanalytic theory and practice

"If you thought you knew what listening is and does, get ready for a mind- and heart-opening journey of discovery. This remarkable tour through the universe of listeners’ responses comes alive with the visceral impacts of attuned versus misattuned listening. The Listening Book is a potent, unique, and inspiring guide for enriching and deepening your experience of human connection."—Diane Poole Heller, PhD, psychotherapist and author of The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships

"With charming stories, practical suggestions, and deep insights, this beautiful book shows us how to truly listen—with profound benefits for others, and oneself. It’s really a gem, a delightful and comprehensive guide to one of the most important human skills."—Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence and Making Great Relationships: Simple Practices for Solving Conflicts, Building Cooperation, and Fostering Love

"The Listening Book is a great way to unpack what listening is all about. Whether you are a good listener who wants to get better, or a not-so-good listener who is perplexed about why your conversations invariably hit walls, this book is for you. This book is also a dream book for therapy students and therapists, especially for those early in their path. Regardless of the model you are practicing, this book will show you, step by accessible step, what to do and also very importantly, what not to do so that your clients feel heard and understood—because once they do, then you can use all the other fancy techniques you are learning, and they will work. Finally, this book is for your inner nerd who wants to have the science behind listening and its transformative powers.

All this is accomplished through ordinary and relatable stories of people in different interpersonal situations: The dialogue is broken down, line by line, into connecters and disconnectors: The reader gets to see so clearly how certain comments help people feel understood, while other seemingly innocuous responses alienate and distance. We get a kind of x-ray of people’s inner thoughts and inner experience where the protagonists tell us their experience of the comments they receive in such a way that we know exactly why they felt understood and "gotten" or, alternatively, painfully misunderstood, dismissed and turned off to that relationship.

Add to this the cutting-edge neuroscience of memory reconsolidation that explains how feeling heard can be a life-changing, transformative experience, particularly for those who have not felt heard in this way, and you've got yourself a gem of a book: super accessible, easy to read, easy to understand and most important of all, easy to apply. The Listening Book is a how-to guide for being a good listener and making those around you, be they family, friends, lovers or clients, feel heard, gotten and understood." — Diana Fosha, PhD, developer of AEDP, founder of the AEDP Institute, and editor of  Undoing Aloneness and the Transformation of Suffering into Flourishing: AEDP 2.0