Men's Sexual Health

Fitness for Satisfying Sex

By Barry W. McCarthy, Michael E. Metz

© 2007 – Routledge

224 pages

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Paperback: 9780415956383
pub: 2007-09-19
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About the Book

Men’s Sexual Health is a breakthrough book about vital and satisfying male sexuality. It presents a new model of male and couple sexuality, which establishes positive, realistic expectations of pleasure and satisfaction, as opposed to the self-defeating traditional demand for perfect intercourse performance.

Men and couples who adopt this approach will enjoy sexuality throughout the lifespan. The authors introduce the new “smart thinking,” focused on an integration of mind and body, which confronts the myths and misunderstandings which limit male sexual growth. The book will help men and women understand how to pursue sexual and relational health, overcome sexual problems, with the goal of greater acceptance and satisfaction.

The book advocates for positive, realistic Good-Enough Sex which will significantly enhance male and couple sexual satisfaction.


"Tired of ‘same old/same old’ when it comes to information about men and sexuality? This is not your father’s sex ed book. Metz and McCarthy just moved to the #1 spot on my list of favorite ‘talk about sex’ books. Best book about men and sex in a decade. They’re well researched, but never dull, with a candid no-nonsense style. A kind of smart talk about sex that you’d expect to find from a couple of guys who’ve spent all their time as top-of-their-field sex therapists and sex experts. I not only like how they talk about men’s sexuality, I like how they talk about women’s sexuality and making sex win-win for both. Knowing that good sex is at the core of a good relationship, they tell you how to be an intimate team with your lover. There are couples whose sex lives are never dull, couples who know that sex makes them closer and more intimate. And there are men who know how to make that happen. Meet Metz and McCarthy. This book will change the pleasure quotient in your life." - Sallie Foley, co-author of Sex Matters for Women, University of Michigan, USA

"In Men’s Sexual Health, respected clinicians McCarthy and Metz offer men a positive and holistic understanding of a man’s sexual self. The authors view male sexuality as going beyond the common emphasis on mere performance and pass-fail sex. Men’s Sexual Health tells men the truth about what it takes to enjoy healthy, pleasurable and satisfying sex. The message is that lasting sexual fulfillment requires an integration of understanding sexual biology, emotions, and partner relationships. The essential ingredients of long term sexual satisfaction include intimacy, pleasuring, and eroticism. The authors remind us that not every sexual encounter need be perfect. Men’s Sexual Health delivers a realistic message that is so essential for the sexual well being of men today. In this book, Drs. McCarthy and Metz have hit another home run." - Julian Slowinski, Psy.D., ABPP, clinical assistant professor, Department of Psychiatry, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine, AASECT Diplomate Sex Therapist, and co-author of The Sexual Male and The Good Sex Guide

“Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy are respected researchers and outstanding clinicians. They have contributed much to what we know today about male sexuality.” - Paul Joannides, author of Guide To Getting It On!

“Women, buy this book! Obviously for the man in your life—after all, its goal is to help him achieve ‘a life-long, intimate, erotic sex life’—but, also to read it yourself. Its straightforward, by-men-for-men approach will give you an inside track, and help you know him, and therefore, love him even better.” - Diane Sollee, founder and director of

"McCarthy and Metz's latest book, Men's Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying Sex, is just plain terrific!!! It presents new information, cogent observations and sensible suggestions that will enrich and enlighten the sexual life and comfort of every man (and his partner). Truly, this is the best book on men's sexual health to come along in decades. I am recommending it to all of my patients!" - Sandra R. Leiblum, Professor of Psychiatry and Director, Center for Sexual and Relationship Health, Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, USA

"McCarthy and Metz have come as close as anyone I have ever seen to finding the vague and elusive happy medium of male sexuality. They have carefully and skillfully walked the tightrope between the demands of traditional machismo and the quest for male emotional intuition and sensitivity….Men's Sexual Health is as much at home at the Super Bowl party as it is on Oprah's coffee table." - Mark O. Bigler, in PsycCritques

"Men's Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying Sex is a remarkable contribution to the field of sex therapy. This book should be on the bookshelf of every sex health and sex education professional. This book is great for adults and older adults, but I get even more excited when I think about giving it to young men who don't have sexual problems yet. The tone is reassuring, and the stance is non-judgmental, but decidedly not wishy washy. The authors take important positions on a number of topics. Men's Sexual Health is destined to be a classic. - Aline Zoldbrod, PhD, in Contemporary Sexuality

Table of Contents

The Truth about Sex. Healthy Thinking about Male Sexuality: What You Need to Know and Learn. Boys to Men: What is Normal & Healthy. Vive le différence: His Sexuality, Her Sexuality. The Mantra of Healthy Sexuality: Intimacy, Pleasuring, Eroticism, and Satisfaction. "Good Enough" Male and Couple Sexuality. Fitness, Physical Well-Being, and Sexual Function. Lifelong Healthy Sexuality: You are a Sexual Man Until You Die. Dealing with Sexual and Health Problems. Valuing an Intimate, Erotic Sexual Life. Epilogue: The Nuts and Bolts for Your Sexual Health. References. Appendix A: How to Find a Therapist who Promotes Healthy Male Sexuality. Appendix B: Resources: Books, Videos, and Trusted Websites

About the Authors

Barry McCarthy, Ph.D. practices at the Washington Psychological Center, is a professor of psychology at American University, has written over 65 professional articles and 16 book chapters, co-authored 11 books for the lay public, and presented over 200 workshops nationally and internationally.

Michael Metz, Ph.D. practices at Meta Associates in St. Paul, Minnesota, is an adjunct professor of family medicine at the University of Minneapolis, has written over 65 professional publications, and has presented over 100 workshops nationally and internationally.

Subject Categories

BISAC Subject Codes/Headings:
PSYCHOLOGY / Human Sexuality
PSYCHOLOGY / Psychotherapy / Couples & Family