When a couple enters therapy, both partners have either explicit or implicit understandings of what can—and, more importantly, cannot—be discussed in therapy. Even when empirically tested assessments are used to help pinpoint areas of concern and conflict, couples may choose to identify only those areas that are relatively safe and do not seriously threaten each partner’s sense of integrity and vulnerability. How is a therapist supposed to proceed when a couple comes in for a tune-up, not realizing that their entire transmission needs to be serviced? Therapists know that some relationships, like some transmissions, can continue to function on some level even without proper care—sometimes even for years—before the couple seeks therapy. If, when they come in, the therapist can help the couples to repair and regain their lost equilibrium, they’ll be more likely to seek help when the transmission next begins to slip.
In its clear, precise prose, insightful case studies, and thought-provoking discussion questions, Couples in Collusion lays out guidelines for identifying, understanding, and, dealing with the unspoken agreements and collusive systems that couples build up over time. Clinicians will find each chapter replete with concrete strategies they can use in practice as well as thorough explanations of the assessment tools, suggestions on how to use them, and even advice on how to build the tools’ costs into clinicians’ limited budgets.
"Dennis Bagarozzi's enlightening book makes it clear that couple therapists who disregard unconscious processes in their clients' relationships do so at their own peril and to their clients' detriment. Couples in Collusion is a masterful demonstration of how it is possible to do genuinely ‘deep’ work with couples even in a brief-therapy format. This is the best clinical writing on the topic I have seen in many years." - Alan S. Gurman, PhD, clinical professor of psychology, the Family Institute at Northwestern University
"Couples in Collusion is a significant contribution to the literature on couple therapy. The author’s discussion of the collusive pacts of partners with borderline and narcissistic pathology is amazingly insightful and useful. Clinicians will find that the study questions in each chapter personalize and integrate all they have learned in this marvelous book." - Len Sperry, MD, PhD, lead author of Couples Therapy, 2nd ed, and coeditor of Recovering Intimacy in Love Relationships
"In its many case examples, Couples in Collusion integrates different theoretical systems and makes extensive use of assessment approaches. It’s a valuable addition to any clinician’s library and a good source for basic information about conducting couple therapy." - S. Richard Sauber, PhD, ABPP, editor of the American Journal of Family Therapy
"This integrative approach to marital counseling will be of interest to marital therapists regardless of theoretical orientation. Bagarozzi combines personal experience with multiple theoretical traditions to create a consumer-friendly roadmap to the hidden agreements and understandings couples bring to therapy." - Steven R. H. Beach, PhD, Distinguished Research Professor at the University of Georgia
Series Editor’s Foreword. Introduction. A Couple’s Presentation as a Collusive Defense. Marital Structure, Interactive Dynamics, and the Self. Assessment: Theoretical and Practical Considerations. Revisiting the Presenting Problem as a Collusive Defense: Treatment Guidelines and Case Studies. Acting Out and Monitoring and Restraining: An Overview. Acting Out: Case Examples and Treatment. Monitoring and Restraining: Case Example and Treatment. Complementary Defensive Systems: Couple Mythologies. Further Assessment Considerations: Primitive Defenses in Borderline and Narcissistic Disorders. Working With Primitive Defenses in Couples’ Therapy: Case Examples of Borderline and Narcissistic Dynamics. Epilogue. Appendix A: Follow-Up Questionnaire. Appendix B: Relationship Problems Questionnaire. Appendix C: Speaker’s Guidelines. References.
The Family Therapy and Counseling Series is devoted to providing practitioners and students with current information on specific topics relevant to marriage and family therapy, counseling, couples therapy, and child and adolescent therapy.
Forthcoming volumes in the series will explore immigrant families, aging, couples therapy, and parenting.